Any holiday in school whether it is Sunday or any festival or vacation time
is HOLY day for children but HELL day for parents. Most of the parents have
the following list of complain for their children:
is HOLY day for children but HELL day for parents. Most of the parents have
the following list of complain for their children:
- Not listening
- Very stubborn
- Not eating properly
- Very hyper active
- Very shy
- Not disciplined
- Always watching television
- Not interested in studies or going to school
- Disorganized
- No table manners
- No respect
- Short tempered
- Always arguing
*Your learning begins now *
And the list can go on and on… If you are a parent and reading this article
then right now pick up pen and paper and list down the qualities of your
children and see whether you can list 100+ if not then please understand
that you have not observed, understood and felt your child. Therefore you
don’t have any right to complain against children. If you can list 100+
qualities that means you will have all the answers of all above list of
complains and you will withdraw all your complains immediately.
then right now pick up pen and paper and list down the qualities of your
children and see whether you can list 100+ if not then please understand
that you have not observed, understood and felt your child. Therefore you
don’t have any right to complain against children. If you can list 100+
qualities that means you will have all the answers of all above list of
complains and you will withdraw all your complains immediately.
Let us understand that children are the fastest learners on the planet
earth. They learn from EVERY THING and EVERY BEING which includes you too.
If you are on phone and your children are near by that means they are
listening to you whether you are aware or not. If you are at home they are
observing you whether you are aware of not. Children have a special gift of
observation even they are fully engaged in their work they have the ability
to observe and through observation they learn.
earth. They learn from EVERY THING and EVERY BEING which includes you too.
If you are on phone and your children are near by that means they are
listening to you whether you are aware or not. If you are at home they are
observing you whether you are aware of not. Children have a special gift of
observation even they are fully engaged in their work they have the ability
to observe and through observation they learn.
*Next step towards Re-learning*
Few things you need to re-learn going back to your childhood that you were
also having the same gift of observation which you used everyday during
your childhood time. You were observing your parents, teachers, relatives,
friends, surroundings and you picked up every habit, qualities and thinking
pattern according to your observation.
also having the same gift of observation which you used everyday during
your childhood time. You were observing your parents, teachers, relatives,
friends, surroundings and you picked up every habit, qualities and thinking
pattern according to your observation.
You need to re-learn that the children about whom you are complaining
consist your DNA too. They have come through you. But here you really have
to re-learn this Truth that your children have come through you not for
you. You have just become a medium for their birth that is all you have
done. You are just a medium. So you need to re-learn that your imposition
will never work and if at all it will work that means you are instilling
all types of fears in your children.
consist your DNA too. They have come through you. But here you really have
to re-learn this Truth that your children have come through you not for
you. You have just become a medium for their birth that is all you have
done. You are just a medium. So you need to re-learn that your imposition
will never work and if at all it will work that means you are instilling
all types of fears in your children.
*Time for some Un-learning*
We all love to learn and re-learn but when it comes to un-learning then
tough time start. But this tough time only gives the best result. You must
be thinking what you need to un-learn so lets not much ponder lets just go
directly to the point that is stop abusing your children as well as every
other children which you have not given birth by giving them various labels
like brat, stupid, dumb, idiot, foolish, donkey… These labels are the most
injurious weapon you are using against children to damage them and ruining
they self-respect, self-dignity, self-esteem, self-confidence.
tough time start. But this tough time only gives the best result. You must
be thinking what you need to un-learn so lets not much ponder lets just go
directly to the point that is stop abusing your children as well as every
other children which you have not given birth by giving them various labels
like brat, stupid, dumb, idiot, foolish, donkey… These labels are the most
injurious weapon you are using against children to damage them and ruining
they self-respect, self-dignity, self-esteem, self-confidence.
In the name of discipline stop beating and treating your child as a
prisoner of your jail that is stop to become a jail warden. And this
applies not only for your children but every children on this earth. Every
child is also a human being and so they need treatment as humans and not as
ignorant creatures. Children are also people so respect them the way you
want your respect, the way you desire to get respect from everyone
including your parents so your children and every other children need great
respect.
prisoner of your jail that is stop to become a jail warden. And this
applies not only for your children but every children on this earth. Every
child is also a human being and so they need treatment as humans and not as
ignorant creatures. Children are also people so respect them the way you
want your respect, the way you desire to get respect from everyone
including your parents so your children and every other children need great
respect.
Last but not least if you say that you really really really love your
children and you are doing whatever you are doing now just for your
children and their future then please stop telling this lie to others as
well as to yourself. A person who really really really loves someone will
always give the other person same respect as he or she is getting from
everyone. First understand the meaning of what it means to love and then
just love without expectations, without commands or demands, without
conditions. If you can love your children unconditionally then you will see
that your children will love you unconditionally forever.
children and you are doing whatever you are doing now just for your
children and their future then please stop telling this lie to others as
well as to yourself. A person who really really really loves someone will
always give the other person same respect as he or she is getting from
everyone. First understand the meaning of what it means to love and then
just love without expectations, without commands or demands, without
conditions. If you can love your children unconditionally then you will see
that your children will love you unconditionally forever.